Kidneys - renal insufficiency

Published on Urinary system.

The Berger disease and the glomerulonephritis are renal insufficiency diseases. Diseased kidneys retain poisonous substances and waste inside the body and get rid of proteins and of what is good for the body, through urine. They work in the opposite way. These wastes end up decaying inside the person. It is easily understood that when a person is filled with waste, he starts smelling putrid. And as a matter of fact, the typical smell of someone who has kidney problems is his putrid smell.

In the case of the patient suffering from renal insufficiency, we return to the issues of fear and crumbling. However, in this case, the person has a huge fear that his relationship with the other person crumbles down.

If the patient is a child or adolescent, who is not living a relationship with someone, the problem in the kidneys is associated to huge fear that his parents’ relationship crumbles down. Should this happen, this child feels that his life will crumble down. This renal insufficiency problem that children have is associated to their strong dependence on the Mother.

On the topic of the feeling of crumbling that the child experiences, we may equally add that he may feel his life crumbling down due to the competition he has to undergo at school or in the sports he plays.

Sport is good, but competition is not, as it contributes towards the child’s undervaluation (see Acute articular rheumatism).

When the child realises that his set of beliefs has crumbled down, he may have a cruel and bitter disappointment and develop glomerulonephritis (protein in urine).

Reciprocal tensions (kidney glomerulus) are managed right here. These are about conflicts associated to individuality and self-esteem, to the sense of individual value and integrity in the relationship between the two.

The pair of kidneys signifies coexistence. Renal insufficiency related problems are problems of coexistence and of relationship. Not so much regarding sexual relations, but the capacity to relate to his peers in general, how the person faces up to others, and particularly the couple’s relationship.

The person who is complete is able to totally amalgamate his masculine and feminine sides. He is one, despite the fact that his body maintains his gender, be it a woman or a man. The person who is complete actually stops paying attention to what he is, man or woman, as being a man or a woman ceases to be important. The person becomes bisexual or asexual. As it is, we, in our society, humans, run away from the yin/yang, masculine/feminine balance. Men tend to hide their yin, feminine side (their shadow side) and women tend to do the same regarding their yang, masculine side.

It is necessary that each of us is aware of our hidden side (the shadow side) and make contact with it, experience it. When we embark on a two-person relationship, this is because we look in the other person, the partner, for the representation of the opposing pole, which, after all, is already inside us. Attraction for the opposite sex is normal, because it is something we lack.

Hence, a woman becomes aware of her masculine side when she projects it on a man, and the man becomes aware of his feminine side when he projects it on a woman.

When I come across someone who shows qualities that live on the surface of my shadow side (if I am a man, this will be my feminine side, my yin side), I fall in love with that person. However, I not only fall in love with her, I also fall in love with my shadow side (in this case, with my yin side). What we love or hate in others is inside us.

We hate the other person when he shows us a side of our shadow that is no longer superficial, that is so deep that we do not wish to see it. For this reason, all the difficulties we experience with our partner are difficulties we experience with ourselves.

And we all know that in our relationship with our partner, we love certain things in him and there are things in him that irritate us. This is because we are always going in circles around our shadow. We like the superficial side of our shadow, but not the deep part of it.

A relationship between two people who are very different has a lot more growth potential, because we grow with the shadow side that the other person shows us about ourselves. People who are very much alike have a gentler, more comfortable and pacific relationship, but the growth is not as marked. It turns monotonous. In the latter case, the two find each other wonderful, they project their common shadow over those who surround them and try to avoid them.

The projection of my shadow over the other person and the shadow of the other person over me is something mysterious and fabulous. But it also undergoes difficult moments.

The couple becomes complete when none of them needs the other. When this happens, the relationship will be pure forever. There is total acceptance of the other person. Nothing repels or attracts us in the other person any more.

When none of the two becomes independent, the relationship is doomed, and the dependence is sickening, making any form of separation painful. When one of the two becomes independent from the other, the heart of the other person gets broken. He feels as if a part of him was taken away from him, because he continues to project his shadow on the other person. He feels that his life is totally crumbling down. The person feels he has everything to lose, and that he no longer has anyone. He feels he is in a void, and that everything linked to the family context has fallen over him, in a real and figurative sense. “Life is too hard! Too much is simply too much! I have ruined the best years of my life!” The person feels that he cannot face up to his life any longer.

Men who suffer from kidney problems (glomerulonephritis, renal insufficiency, Berger’s disease), besides feeling major crumbling in their lives, will also blame their wives for the bad relationship. If a man blames his wife for the bad relationship, surely he will not be able to look at his shadow side (feminine). He will continue to project and will not accept his wife’s feminine side, as she, after all, is showing him his own feminine side that he is not aware of. He should take advantage of the fact and grow with that other person’s feminine side. For example, a man who finds his wife too yang, too masculine, should realise that he attracted her in order to understand that his own feminine part is equally too yang, too hard, not sensitive.

Women who suffer from kidney problems (glomerulonephritis, renal insufficiency, Berger’s disease), besides feeling major crumbling in their lives, will also blame their husbands for the bad relationship. If a woman blames her husband for the bad relationship, surely she will not be able to look at her shadow side (masculine). She will continue to project and will not accept her husband’s masculine side, as he, after all, is showing her own masculine side that she is not aware of. She should take advantage of the fact and grow with that other person’s masculine side. For example, a woman who finds her husband too yin, too feminine, should realise that she attracted him in order to understand that her own masculine part is equally too yin, not sensitive and not very firm.

By being unable to discern what to accept in the relation with the other person, this man or this woman alter the filtering process of their kidneys and end up getting rid of vital substances and storing toxic substances. The person loses discernment and, instead of acknowledging the relational problems, puts the blame on the partner. Here, the person’s inability to accept, and the need to blame the partner show the person’s lack of discernment. The body will expose this through the bad functioning of the kidney.

As a matter of fact, the kidney patient has chronic problems with the other person (husband or wife, girlfriend or boyfriend), whom he/she always blames for the poor two-person relationship they have. Moreover, the person suffering from renal insufficiency tends to make judgements on the other person and, at the same time, is incapable of speaking to him in a clear and firm voice, in the right place and time, with tenderness. The person suffering from renal insufficiency has great difficulty facing up to people, although he is convinced of the contrary (that is his big illusion, which ends up destroying him). He will not confront the other with assertiveness, in a clear and firm voice, in the right place and time, with tenderness, love and respect. Instead, he digests what the other person has done to him, blaming the other person, becoming furious and ending up, when the real confrontation takes place, reacting violently, with anger and rage, which is not a synonym of a clear and firm voice, and only leads to fighting.

This difficulty to confront in a firm and simple way, which are attributes of our daily lives, is experienced mostly by people with renal insufficiency, who find it extremely difficult to say the word No.

The person suffering from renal insufficiency is the perfect example of the person who is afraid of saying No. However, he is convinced he is brave and that he can perfectly say No.

This patient chickens out when he assesses the consequences of saying No. For this reason, he will not say it and leaves it up in the air. Then he will charge for it.

The patient with renal insufficiency had a parental model, probably passed on to him by his Mother, of need to be loved by others. He needs others to find him a nice person, pleasant, altruistic, a butter-heart.

He needs to learn how to say No more often, with assertiveness. He needs to do it gently, clearly, immediately. Then his high blood pressure (potential volcano – the fire of water) will reach the state of equilibrium (the volcano will turn into a volcanic vent).

He should practice saying a firm No, that must be gentle, clear and timely, immediate. He must not wish to please others.

The person suffering from renal insufficiency should attempt to find out if his Mother did not wish to madly please his Father during pregnancy. This is probably the case, but the guilt cannot be attributed to the mother or to the father, or to himself. No one is to blame. But the responsibility (not the guilt) is solely his. If he fails to assume his responsibility, he will not be able to solve his renal insufficiency.

The person suffering from renal insufficiency may have several tensions associated to money. In fact, the body waters are liquids, and money is also considered a form of liquidity. This patient will have money problems if he cannot say No to those who ask him for money.

The patient with renal insufficiency is normally the dumb charitable one. He will bend himself backwards in order to save others and be approved by them. What is the point of seeking approval if one is decomposing inside?

In short: we may say that the patient with renal insufficiency has chronic problems with the partner, whom he blames and does not accept the way he or she is because he/she does not accept him/herself as he/she is. For this reason, he/she loses discernment. He/she has major fears that he/she will not be able to follow the beliefs of the clan and he/she is afraid that the relationship he/she maintains with other person will crumble down. He/she is also afraid of saying No, almost always, namely when asked for money, which can bring him/her major financial troubles and a crumbling of his/her own finances. He/she needs others to find him/her a nice person, pleasant, altruistic, a butter-heart. For this reason, he/she runs away from conflict. This patient is incapable of being flexible and firm at the same time. He will not assertively confront others in a firm and clear voice at the right place and time, with tenderness and love. For this reason, he ends up fighting. He is profoundly imbued by the ancient memories of the clan that have been passed on to him by his parents or grandparents, and has lost the notion of what is good for him and what is not, in the process. In other words, the lack of discernment pattern comes to the fore again. His conception, and particularly his birth, must be analysed in detail and with transparency. The patient suffering from renal insufficiency has difficulty choosing what is best for him. He always thinks of others first. Not out of altruism, but out of the need of approval. If we had to choose a single keyword for kidney problems, it would be crumbling. When talking about the feeling of crumbling, it is the same as talking of deep fear, in other words, fear associated to a feeling of danger with extremely serious consequences.

It is this unique, individual sensation that the patient with renal insufficiency feels and that characterises his thinking pattern as a patient of this kind. In fact, there are people who undergo extremely hard episodes in their lives and who have never felt the type of crumbling that a patient with renal insufficiency feels and, accordingly, they did not experience renal insufficiency problems.

The kidneys of the patient with renal insufficiency stop producing the eritropoetin hormone, whose role is to stimulate bone marrow to produce red blood cells. In fact, from a physical perspective, the crumbling is, in this case, visible on the body. The person become anaemic and has no strength.

There is a category of people who show tendency to renal insufficiency. It is the case of deported people, exiled people, asylum seekers and emigrants. They may feel that their lives, roots, have completely crumbled. Emigrants are often found in dialysis rooms.

The degeneration of the kidney reaches its peak when all the functions cease and a dialysis machine must guarantee the vital task of blood purification. The machine is the perfect partner. In the absence of good relations, the machine has become the perfect partner, since the patient with renal insufficiency feels all relationships were bad. “At last, the ideal partner!” Nevertheless, as is well known, he becomes totally reliant. This is a violent way the body chooses to show the person what he never wanted to face up.

The patient with renal insufficiency finds it easier to communicate with the help of alcohol, coffee or tea, as these are diuretics that stimulate the kidneys. Thus, given that the kidney is an organ of communication in relationships, the person improves his relationships. Cigarettes stimulate the lungs and bronchi, which are organs for contact and communication with others. For this reason, in some gatherings with friends, there is drinking and smoking as a means to create contact and to stimulated the organs of contact, the bronchi, lungs and kidneys. Renal insufficiency patients normally enjoy these occasions and like to stand out. However, drinking and smoking do not solve the causes. They solve symptoms and effects. The core issues remain.

With renal insufficiency, it is not important to know which of the kidneys is yang and which is yin. In fact, both are caught in the renal insufficiency. This is because this is a two-person relationship.

The yin/yang polarity does matter when talking about symptoms such as cysts, cancers and stones.

Bladder problems are caused by stress. Kidney problems are provoked by obsessive fears.

See KidneysKidneys – cancer and cysts and Kidney stones

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