Family

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The parental project (conscious or unconscious) results in a baby, a person. A being is incarnated. This birth is what gives meaning to the parents’ project. Likewise, when these parents were born, they gave meaning to the grandparents’ project. Let us not forget that upon birth, the child already knows what parents and family he joins. He brings with him a deep knowledge of the type of ancestors and clan thought processes that this family possesses. In his soul, the child carries the knowledge of genealogic lineage, the wisdom of the clan. The group of brains of a herd creates a collective brain with an identity of its own, the clan brain.

Conception and birth are a creation which involves three people and which only gives fruit if all are in agreement (that is, the Father, the Mother, and the future baby) and jointly create that epiphany which results in the incarnation of a new being.

As soon as the child is born, the memory of lineage he brought with him becomes unconscious. In fact, he forgets all the baggage he brought along and will need to experience living with his family to slowly start to understand the thinking patterns and way of being and feeling of his family. So, it is important that the child hears references to family members, that he learns about past events, though not only the great and epic ones. He must learn about all: emotions, family conflicts, hushed scandals, and all the hidden information.

One of the great problems of the present is that many people are confronted with a family pattern that hides the past, and mainly the emotions of the past, which forces the body to reveal it as a symptom as the person lives. In fact, as stated in the introduction, the body does not lie and always reveals what is hidden. Hidden family problems may resurface two generations later, in the grandchildren, both physically and psychologically, always under the appearance of a symptom.

In agricultural society, grudges, shame, and feelings of culpability pass from generation to generation and appear as symptoms.

In religion, tradition, patriotism and in all other forms of “ism”, the dogma is passed on from generation to generation through a common way of thinking and a common approach to life.

For instance, a grandfather who lost all his land may cause a granddaughter to have territorial conflicts, thus giving rise to cervix or heart problems.

There are women who, for generations and generations, personify a model of the suffering woman, lied to, beaten up, guilt ridden; And that is why all generations of women recurrently experience the same or similar symptoms in organs that represent femininity, such as breast, ovaries, fallopian tube, womb (uterus), cervix (neck of the womb), and vagina.

Families affected by liver problems have a functioning pattern that is well grounded in group behaviour. Consequently, all members suffer from liver issues.

Families where cancer prevails are families where information is hidden, instead of being available to all members of the clan, as non-verbalization of intensive feelings may cause cancer. Child illnesses are the result of what parents had in mind during pregnancy or at the exact moment of conception.

If parents simply wanted a sexual relation without love (getting laid) and a child is born as a result, it is possible that this child will suffer from eczema (skin problem) since the child results from separation in love. Let us not forget that during pregnancy, for nine months, the child is connected to the Mother’s emotions, her way of life, and the way the parents relate to each other influences the child.

On account of this, because of this influence family and lineage have on a person, it is always important to consider the herd, the clan, and not destroy it. It is by creating a new herd, a new group, and not by criticizing the original one, that we move forward. To move away from the clan, to reject it and seek isolation, is to deny the origin of the joint creation, to negate the reason why one is born into a specific family, and to miss the meaning of the message that a family has on a person. To move away from the clan and settle for an opposite life style does not resolve any problems.

Some people are born into families that have little or nothing to do with what they will accomplish in this life and that is the message they must understand. However, we are born into a family and must learn to love it, to accept it, to understand what beliefs we must forget, without violence, to follow our path, often in solitude but not in isolation. You may not like the way of life of your family members and choose to move away. That is fine. But do not kill the clan, do not destroy it, do not do it harm, and simply accept it. Move away from the members but let them live as they wish and go about living the life you want.

If the person is a male, the great-grandfather (fourth generation, Father’s grandfather) corresponds to a person’s mission in life, if the person is a male.

Many people tend to live exactly as the clan dictates or to do the direct opposite. Neither of these approaches is good as both run away from the self and fail to listen to the body. Breaking the connection with ancestors creates separation for you and for the other descendents of those same ancestors.

In his life, from the moment of birth, the child lives an unconscious project that will, one day, give rise to a tension and a physical symptom. And that health problem is always correct because it corresponds to something the child created (albeit unconsciously). Symptoms are actually grounded on the way of thinking and living.

To overcome the symptom and find the way back to health, the person must gain awareness of his project and learn what does and does not work for him and what does and does not work in the way he relates to his family and clan.

A person who wants to be cured but has no project will die, anyway. It is necessary to change the project (which is the goal) so that the cure (which is not the goal in itself) will take place. It is necessary to take charge of your life. Someone with renal insufficiency must go from a subconscious to a conscious project. He must quit living the archetypes of parents and clan, separate from the clan’s beliefs. If he does not do it, he will not be able to maintain the kidney he received in a transplant, for example. The kidneys belong to the waters of the body, the deepest and most ingrained part of the clan’s collective brain.

We may act at four different levels to find a person’s balance: the memories of ancestors; nine months of pregnancy; birth; and the life of the person.

If I cure myself, all other members of the family who descend from the same old great-grandfather will be cured as well. This is not a goal but simply a positive consequence.

When you cure yourself, you also cure the descendents, transversal family members, and ancestors (through a collective unconscious: planet, race, tribe, clan, and family).

The Bible says: “You will be damned until the 77th generation. One of you will know and you will be blessed until the 7th generation.”

We should all complete a family tree using what we know, what we can find from other members, and what we remember. Then we must add all the illnesses, divorces, and accidents. We must also add the occupations and professions of each member, when available. Each one of us will interpret his genealogy in his own way. The individual is important to the species and that is why the species has a project for the individual. The clan is very powerful and always calls back the person who moved away.

The human being is gregarious. The one who has new ideas is always the black sheep of the family. The clan feels threatened by the black sheep and tries to control it, keep it in line. That is common.

It is very important to accept ancestors and the family. To accept does not mean to live with them. You may change clan. When you are between two clans, life becomes a crisis.

Independence is not lived in isolation. Independence means to be able to choose your herd, to choose your group. The security of finding a group again, whether a new group or the old one, devolves energy to the individual. The person finds a new positive way of being again and may find a new project, leaving behind the archetypes of his parents and family. If I take that step, however, I cannot go on having my laundry done at my mother’s or having lunch at my parents’, because that is not independence.

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