How to be Respected?

A Authority and Power entry published on July 23, 2009

What is the difference between Authority and Power?

If you ask people on the streets what Authority is, they will probably confuse Authority with Power.
Most people think authority means authoritarian.
But in fact, authority has nothing to do with authoritarian.

If I want to introduce this concept of Authority, it is because our egotistic society does not understand its meaning and interprets it wrongly.

Ignoring the meaning of Authority makes your relation with others much harder:
Pupils with their teachers; Sons and daughters with their father and mother; Subordinates with their bosses; Citizens with governments, etc.

The concept of Authority is the first one to be taught in Instruction on Life.

And guess what: Authority has absolutely nothing to do with Power.

Let’s start with Power.

From the earlier classical Latin, the word possere (that means “to possess”) gave way, in the recent Latin, to potere that became pouvoir in French, poder in Spanish and Portuguese and potere in Italian.
It is from the French word pouvoir that we got to the Anglo-French word pouair, that became power in today’s English.

From this, we understand that the word Power means “to possess”, “to have” and therefore “to be able”.
Hence, Power is an ability you have.

It can be an Inner Power or an Outer Power.

What is the Outer Power?

It’s the ego’s favourite tool.
It has to do with everything that is external to the being.
It allows you to control others, to dominate others.
The external power is dictated by your title, or your job or your function.
It’s something you have that others have not.

Here are some examples:
A father or a mother have an outer power over sons and daughters when these are young.
A boss has power over his subordinates.
An army general has power over all those that have less stars and stripes.
A teacher uses his power with the students and he demands obedience in the classroom.
A coach uses power and demands obedience from the athletes.

So the outer power does not use the dialogue, but rather obedience.

Somebody with a smaller external power can be asked to obey to someone with a bigger external power.
It is legal, it is legitimate, but it frequently enables the use of force.
Parliaments, governments, city mayors have external power.

The labels father and mother, besides being biological attributes, are also a sign of external power.
And of course, if you are not obedient, you’ll get punished.

A father/mother, or a teacher or a boss can say or do things that the kids, the pupils or the subordinates cannot say or do, because they may have problems.

It is because the external power allows you to control others that most of the people in mankind want to have it, to submit others to their ideas and goals.

What is the Inner Power?

It’s something that lies within. It sprouts from inside.
It has nothing to do with your job, your function, your title. It is not hierarchical.
It is something that has to do with being rather than with having.

You don’t need to own or have or prove anything to be.
You just are.
That is your inner power.
It’s inner intelligence.

Many people do not trust their inner power, because they feel insecure, they don’t have enough self esteem, they can’t vibrate genuinely and thus they need a big external power to insure they can “survive” in the society of ego.

Your ego hates your inner power.
He wants the outer power, the power to control, to command.

What does Authority mean?

The true Authority is the result of your inner power. It’s the wisdom that comes from within.
It has to do with your connection to the source, to the I Am.
Authority has nothing to do with the verb to have, but rather with the verb to be.
You do not have authority. You are seen as an authority.

The big difference between the External Power and Authority lies in the fact that authority cannot be imposed, it needs to be recognized.

So your authority depends on those who look at you.
Some people may recognize your authority and some others may not.
And you cannot do anything about it.

This is why people who are very much identified with their ego, and thus seeking for others approval, can’t stand those who do not recognize their authority and hence use power to submit them by force.

The word authority comes from the word author. And the word author has a Latin root. It means: “he who enables growth”.

So, the person whom you recognize as an authority is a person who enables your growth.
The others are the ones to decide if I am an authority to them or not.

What makes you an Authority?

Your personal abilities:
1. Your Inner Power
2. Your knowledge

Authority and Inner Power:

I just said the true Authority is the result of your Inner Power.
This means I would judge your sense of Authority at your Inner Power.
Yet, most people will judge your authority by how you appear and how you act.
We could call this your intrapersonal intelligence and your interpersonal intelligence.

People will confuse your Inner Power with your appearance and your acts, which are part of the ego.
This means that may you be totally genuine or totally faked, you will be an authority for someone.

Some will like a person’s big ego and strong personality.
And he will be considered as an authority to them. That’s their choice.

Some others will prefer another person’s genuine vibration and ability to connect and recognize the source, and he will be considered as an authority to them.
It’s always the others’ choice.

You can be considered an authority for thousands of characteristics:
It can be because you are a good listener, or because you react calmly and softly to others’ fragilities, or because you are good at saying No, or because you have no fears, or because you verbalize and observe your emotions…
If you are an individual who is very much identified with your ego, you will recognize authority to egotistic people.
If you are an individual who prefers to connect to the Source, to the I Am, you will recognize authority in spiritual people, for example, but not in egotistic people.

Authority and Knowledge:

Your knowledge is your ability to master Instruction on Matter.
People will like your knowledge in Economy, or in Finance, or in Law, or in Philosophy, or in Engineering , or in Astrology, or in Painting…

This means authority does not claim for obedience, never!

Only someone who feels that his authority may be at stake will claim for obedience thru the use of power.
Power inspires fear.
Authority inspires respect.

You will always recognize authority in someone who enables your growth in whatever subject it may be.

Quickly, you will understand that the sense of Authority is a dynamic notion. It changes with time.
Someone you considered an authority in your youth may not appear anymore as an authority to you.
This means authority may discontinue.

The purpose of the human evolution is precisely in the acceptance of the discontinuity of authority; It is to understand that sometimes you need to be separated from some people to go and learn from others.

People have different evolution speeds and different levels of understanding.
To change from a group of friends to another is often a sign of evolution; changing the frequency of seeing friends can also be a sign of evolution.

The word empowerment in English means you recognize authority to someone.
That is the reason you give him more power.
The word authoritarian has nothing to do with authority but rather with the use of the outer power.

You can choose:
Either you interact with others thru the use of external power, and you will want others to fear you in order to get what you aim, or you interact with them thru the use of authority, and you will be respected.

It’s a personal choice.

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